Open Door Policy

How many people out there actually shut the bathroom door when they're peeing and either live by themselves or nobody is home?

My fiance's condo has two bedroom and two bathrooms. Since our bathroom is in our bedroom, I feel that it is perfectly appropriate to leave the door open. When we're in the living room watching a movie and I have to quickly run to the bathroom, it is unnecessary to shut the door! Also when either he or I need to use the bathroom, and the other needs to shower, brush, do his/her hair, etc, we are both comfortable with being able to share the bathroom. Mind you, I am speaking solely of peeing.

I pee freely.

Do you?

Geek?

Has dodgeball been popular all along and I just never noticed it? After all I played it through elementary school and there was a [pretty good] movie about it.

Or is dodgeball gaining popularity because of the movie?

I bowl. I enjoy bowling. I would rather go bowling on a Friday night than out getting trashed and spending lots of money. My fiance "allowed" me to get bowling shoes, but he thinks getting the actual bowling ball is too geeky. It would improve my game. The ball would be fit to my hand, the same weight every time and I wouldn't have to worry about finding a ball in the alley. Especially when there are so many with big gashes or ones I can't fit my fingers in.

Well, I think my fiance should be considered as geeky for playing dodgeball. He has a tournament tonight. I wonder if he'll get prescription goggles for it or if the team will get matching uniforms...

It is Better to Give Than to Receive

My fiance and I have registered at a number of places for our upcoming wedding. It's kind of a odd... we are in short handing each guest a wishlist of gifts.

Yesterday while on the phone with my fiance, I said to him "I can't wait to see what it looks like when someone buys something." But then at that very moment I saw that something was bought. Actually a couple of things. It was all 12 settings of our formal china... AND the host bowl.

We both felt bad , but at the same time I was happy because it was something I wanted. I guess we're hoping it wasn't one person, but rather a few people buying the gifts together. We were always taught that it's better to give than to receive (well not everyone was taught that...), but I guess we will have to accept our feelings (good and bad) unless we want to get rid of the registry all together.

Permissions

Why do some people get upset when two of their friends become friends?
Friendships and Jealousy

There's this guy at work and he's constantly commenting about the fact that another girl and I have become friends. I'd understand if it was jealousy especially if it took away from either of our friendships with him, but I know that it's not. For one thing neither of us hang out with him often and he doesn't make much effort or anything like that.

He needs to lighten up and stop being such an idiot. If he even made more of an effort to be friends then maybe he wouldn't feel what he feels. Besides I don't need his or anybody else's permission anyway.

chmod friendships 777
(i know, really corny...)

The Race Card

On Friday night I went to the bowling alley. It was actually a bowling fundraiser for an association of black engineers. But I'm not black. I don't know if that matters or not, but I knew a couple of people there.

I figured with the amount of time I spend with my own race, it would do me good to hang out with others. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a stranger to being the minority, but in my eyes being a minority to white people and being the minority to another minority are very different situations. In fact, I think I feel more comfortable in the latter situation. I'm not sure why or if it's acceptable that I should feel that way but I do. And it's not that I'm prejudice towards anyone, but I definitely notice differences in different people. That in itself could be considered theb beginning of bias I suppose, but it's really not. At least it's not with the negative connotation usually associated with that word.

After bowling, we all went out. They were playing hip hop which I (along with most other girls) love dancing too. I was a little afraid of not fitting in (aka looking like an idiot), but bottom line is I enjoy dancing so I just danced.

There was a white couple there and the girl said to me "We impressed them. We impressed them with our dancing." I replied "I wonder if we impressed them too? But I guess it is more impressive because you're white." Is that wrong? It was funny to both of us, but I feel like people are so caught up with being pc that it's difficult to say those things.

Anyway, my fiance and I had a great time. I think part of his good mood had to do with all the "booty" in the place. ;-)

Cycle of Friends

Some people have friends that they've known since they were in kindergarten. They have years and years of memories. I think a lot of that has to do with one's parents and who they spend time with during the course of their lives. Many years ago, my parents had less time for friends because more and more family started moving to our state. So there are people that I have known since I was little but I don't see very often. I see my family constantly, every holiday and every birthday (and there are a lot of them!) we all get together. In turn, my friends throughout the childhood/young adult years changed usually when I changed schools. From middle school to junior high to high school to college to workplace #1 to workplace #2, etc.

When I moved to New England for work and met others who had done the same (moved from their homes), we all had something in common. We didn't know anybody else. So we joined forces. But there was always atleast 1 or 2 people who were so stuck on their "old friends" that they couldn't get along with the group. It was always like "oh, but my friends and I never do that, we always do this...", "back home, they didn't act like that", "i can't wait to see my friends". As if in order for this person to be friends with us, we had to act exactly like his/her old friends. I'm not saying you can't keep your old friends! You definitely should. But if you want any chance of making new ones where you are then you need to spend some time doing so. And in that sense you can't be on the phone constantly with your old friends, because no one cares to try to talk to you if you don't reciprocate. Which is sad of course, because everyone has a right to be homesick and miss their friends and family, but at the same time it's a bit childish. I mean you have to grow up some time and if you can't handle moving then don't do it.

Anyway so I feel that it's a cycle of friends rather than a circle of friends. And as I'm talking about friends, old and new, I wonder what a friend really is...

Forgetful Jones

So for my title's sake, I looked up where forgetful jones came from. I know that my mom used to call both me and my brother that every time we lost something (and that was pretty often).

It seems that forgetful jones was a sesame street character and I used to watch sesame street just as much as the next kid yet I don't really remember him. When I found pictures of him on the internet, he looked familiar. He was the cowboy puppet, but I didn't know that was where the term came from.

Anyway, so some woman left her rings (engagement and wedding) in the bathroom this afternoon. I could not believe it. I try to keep my ring on at all times and I would most definitely not take it off at work. I keep it on when I wash my hands if I'm not at home. I'm just too afraid of losing it. It is after all the most expensive thing I have. More than my clothes, than my furniture, than my car! Well since this woman hadn't come to claim it because usually you remember these things within 10 minutes, I figured that she must have left work.

You know, I wasn't even the one who found it. It wasn't even in the bathroom that I use. A friend of mine found it and when I told her to go get it, she told me that she didn't want to worry about being accused of stealing it. I felt that she should get it and leave a note, so I did just that. After all, I've even left a mug in the bathroom which to this day, have not yet found! I know I would have been worried sick, crying my eyes out (knowing it doesn't help at all), horrified by my stupidity and absolutely nervous to have to tell my husband when he came home from work.

So I finally got a call from Mike, some security guy. He said he had received a call from a "distraught woman" (which is possibly the perfect term) and I went over to give him the ring. Mike had sent another woman into the bathroom to find the rings and she found my note instead. He was still on the phone with the "distraught woman" and he gave her my name as well as the phone! I really had no idea what to say to her, but it didn't matter because I didn't have much chance to speak. She was so happy, still crying and was thanking me profusely.

I felt kind of weird because I got the credit, but as I said, it wasn't me who had found the rings. It seemed pointless to say "well, someone else found them, told me about them and then I got them and put up a note."

Oh well, I hope she doesn't mind. =)

"He Works Hard For the Money"

I get very annoyed when people say "Oh, he's rich... that's why you like him." It bothers me because people are just so caught up in money. Maybe they say it because it's a combination of that and jealousy. If they had money then maybe girls would like them (it's usually guys that say this).

I guess when a guy has money, people automatically assume that's the only reason to like him.

Anyway, I suppose I don't care too much what people say, but what bothers at all is not the fact that they think I'm superficial... but rather they're not giving my fiance enough credit. For who he is, his intellect and everything he's achieved on his own. Many assume that if one's parents had (or have money), they are automatically spoiled and/or stupid. But I know and as my title suggests, he has worked very hard his entire life and he should reap the benefits of doing so.

But... while I'm on the subject of money, I still don't understand men and their priorities. I was thinking of making or buying a recipe book. I looked some up and there is a cute one on amazon for $20. I was going to buy it but I was told by my husband that it was too expensive. Meanwhile he went to Miami last weekend for a bachelor party. That includes: flight to Miami, hotel in Miami, eating out in Miami and going out drinking with the boys for two nights in Miami!! Sigh. I'll never understand.

Blog etiquette

Because my blog is mostly (if not completely) anonymous, I don't feel the need to lie. There is no reason for me to do so.

Are there people out there that lie in their blogs to help in making themselves believe they lead a life that they really don't? Or to take them away from reality?

One thing I do do though: sometimes if I haven't written a post in a couple of days and I then write multiple posts in one day I change the dates to disperse them over the past few days, to distribute it more evenly.

Is that okay?

"I Hear the Secrets That You Keep..."

I tried to clean up the place this afternoon. I was doing a good job of it too! Throwing away garbage, putting clothes away, making space and then...
I didn't mean to, but I found the "bag". The bag of ex-girlfriend's letters. It was in the closet. Just sitting there. I didn't realize what it was until it was too late. By that time I already felt bad. That pit at the bottom of your stomach feeling.

To tell you the truth, I wasn't sure what to feel. I mean at the time it definitely made me feel bad. Then I tried to follow anekantvad, which I try to do more often than not, and I realized that somewhere at my old place I still have my letters. And I realized that I should throw them out as soon as possible. I think it neither appropriate to keep them nor for me (or anyone else) to read them. In a way I suppose I feel okay, because I have him now and he has me now. We all have a past. And our histories have made us who we are today. That's my attempt at an optimistic spin.

How would you feel?

Closer

I hung out with a friend of mine tonight. She and I wanted to get take out and watch a nice girlie romantic comedy.

We went to blockbuster and our selection was limited because put together we had seen most of the movies out there. Well we chose the movie Closer. We thought it looked like a nice movie with Julia Roberts, Natalie Portman, Jude Law and Clive Owens.

To our dismay this movie was HORRIBLE. All they did was screw each other. Cheating, cheating, cheating. Julia was even cheating on Clive with Jude for a year and still agreed to marry him. They were newlyweds and after Clive came home from some trip and said he had sex with some whore, she came clean.

Then Clive found Natalie at a strip club and they did it, while Julie and Jude did it.

Then Julia got Clive to sign the divorce papers, but only after they did it.

It was just horrible. Don't ever see it. Unless you like people cheating on their "significant" others.

David who?

I went to my in-laws house the other day and my fiance's sister-in-law bought me a really nice gift.
She was so excited to give it to me. She said that she had one similar to it and if I liked it she would give me another one. Well I opened it up and it was a very nice silver bracelet. It wasn't necessarily my style, but my tastes are constantly changing and it looked very cool and different. It was a thick roped silver with black onyx on it.
She said "do you like it? do you like it? It's David Yurman, he makes really nice stuff and it's expensive and designer, and he's really cool."
Well I wore it to work on Monday and there's this woman at work who loves jewelry. She's constantly buying new jewelry (and wearing it!). She knows a lot about jewelry as well. She came over to my desk and complimented my bracelet.
I thanked her and said it was made by some designer guy who I've never heard of, I think his name was... and before I could finish my sentence she replied "David Yurman".
I said, "Yes that's it!" She told me that she had similar bracelets, much smaller than that and she asked if I knew how much it was. I, who know absolutely nothing about jewelry, said well the person who gave it to me said it was expensive. So in my head I was thinking maybe $100-$200. But this woman who I was talking to doesn't really wait for an answer and she told me it's probably about $700. I was shocked. WHAT? SEVEN HUNDRED DOLLARS?! She said it was probably $500-700 at least and told me that she has David's catalogs at home, etc etc.
Needless to say she showed me websites like Neiman Marcus who sell this guy's stuff and the bracelet that was similar to mine was $1100. She apologized for low-balling it, haha. Unbelievable how much designer jewelry, or designer anything, costs these days.
I really like the bracelet, but I'm deathly afraid of losing it now. I already have an engagement ring to worry about!

Let Sisqo see it...

What is up with the popularity of thong showing these days? I dont think it's attractive nor appropriate in most cases.

I went to the gym the other day and in boot camp class we had a relay race. One girl's thong was completely hanging out as she was running. Another girl told her, but she didn't seem to care or think much of it. I think she was almost disappointed when she had no choice but to pull her pants up.

And also crack is whack!

The Marrieds vs. the Unmarrieds

Let me start by saying that wedding planning is horrible. Just elope. It's easier, cheaper. It seems that "my big wedding day" is really all about making everyone else happy/comfortable/unoffended and I'm sick of it.

When I started with my guest list, I tried really hard to keep my numbers low. I know that my parents, my fiance, his parents, want to invite everyone and their mother. I guess it's nice but there are A LOT of people that will be there that I dont care to share my day with.
Then when I get a chance to complain, i get the whole "well everyone knows the wedding isn't for you really..." bullshit.

Anyway so I tried to make a rule for myself to only allow someone to bring a guest if they were engaged/married. I mean these days either everyone has a significant other or someone that they could bring. And if this rule meant inviting more of my friends, then I figured it was fair. Especially if the significant others didn't know me, let alone my fiance.

Well I told a good friend of mine, X, this information, and she understood. I mean I think she did... but her boyfriend didn't. I explained it as nicely as I could. But the truth of the matter is, her boyfriend is just some guy. I've never met him, don't care for him, and X has always been so fickle about guys anyway that I don't feel as though I should have to invite him. X has a system:

1. X dates complete dork - usually a dork because I believe she enjoys dominance so he does whatever she says, they spend ALL their time together.
   
2. X's bf does one thing that she doesn't like, X thinks he is a jackass, she breaks up with said dork
   
3. Gets back together with him
   
4. Repeat step 2 and 3 multiple times.
   
5. Finally X breaks up with guy and tells me she'd like some time to be alone, free of relationships and independent, but instead she meets someone else and ...go to step 1.
   

I tried to explain this "X situation" to another friend of mine, Y. She asked, "Does X really not mind that you're not inviting her man, or was she just saying that she didn't?" I replied, "X has known me for years and she knows that if she wants something then she has to say it because if I ask her a question and she said she doesn't mind, then that's what I'm going to believe."

Only then did Y say something about how her relationship is going and if it was serious in a couple months, it might be "awkward". Awkward? AWKWARD? Awkward for who? for him?! Why? He's known you for how long? and he's never even met me? And because you guys might be serious by the time my wedding rolls around? What? Maybe it will be awkward for me! Did she ever consider that?

Well I'll admit, Y did put some ideas in my head, so I brought up my excel spreadsheet and almost changed my whole guest list around. I tried to see what I could do, played with the numbers a bit... And then I thought about it again and said to myself, why? Why am I doing this? why? I decided to use the good old web for some help. This is what I found...

Inviting Guests' Unmarried Partners
" Whether to invite the unmarried partners of your desired guests is a common and contentious dilemma. Although it is usual for each party to adopt a system to help them ration the number of invitations they have, long term unmarried partnerships are almost socially equal to marriages. However, short term relationships are not and therefore do not need to be acknowledged socially at an important event such as your wedding."

The Knot says
" In an ideal world, you'd be able to accommodate everyone, letting every single friend and relative bring a date if they wished. If money is the bottom line -- and when isn't it? -- invite your nearest and dearest without dates rather than crossing them off your guest list altogether. (If anyone complains, simply explain your dilemma -- it was important to have them there, but you couldn't afford to invite dates.) Then, carefully consider where you seat them at the wedding; you may want to seat them with other unattached friends so they won't get stuck with a bunch of lovebirds."

So it relieved me. I thought that's what I was doing all along. And long term is NOT "I met this guy a couple months ago". Isn't the system I adopted a good one? I believe most of my friends understand and if they don't they should. I think when they plan their wedding, they'll understand, because I didn't necessarily understand before either. I just hope I'm doing the right thing.

Give 'em an inch, they'll take a mile

Why is that when you don't like someone and you try to make that clear so that they stay away, people get so easily offended and they approach you about disliking them or ask you to be a little sensitive towards them and then when you try to be nice a little bit (now that you feel obligated to do so), they immediately think you're friends with them?
I just assume most people take the hint. I would. If someone doesn't like me, then what do I care? I don't need them to like me, unless it's my boss or something. But if someone doesn't like me and especially if there's no reason for them not to like me, then I don't waste my time wondering or caring why. I don't need to ask them to like me either.
Well there's this really annoying guy at work. He annoys me all the time. The thing is half the time I'm rude to him and the other half I ignore him and walk away. Yet he still wants to talk to me. I don't understand why. He doesn't bother other people as much. At first I thought it was because I just got annoyed more easily, but then I realized that he just really enjoys talking to me. He may have some mental problem, but it's almost as though he's out to annoy me. Other co-workers will talk to him and he just won't bother them, visit them as much. He won't ask for their IM screen names or their cell phone numbers. But then other people seem to just be nicer and talk to him more. So I thought maybe that was the key. But when I tried to be nice to him for 30 seconds, he was back at it again, annoying the hell out of me. So I'm mean again, but his feelings will get hurt and sometimes I feel bad. Vicious cycle, it is.
Then there's the boyfriend's friend's girlfriend. So upset when I didn't like her or didn't want to go to lunch with her. In my opinion, there's no reason for her to care whether I did or did not. She told me she feels uncomfortable hanging out in groups with us. I think she should just get over it and not worry about what I think. It's never that simple for anyone, is it? Well, on the advice of my fiance (more like to make him happy), I am nice to her. And what happens?
She's over all the time, talking to me about stuff I dont care about at all, so I have to bullshit with her, be nice through clenched teeth with a fake smile, afraid to make a joke or use my usual sarcasm in the fear that she, this prissy sensitive highly-irritating girl, will get upset.
Ugh. Call me mean, call me what you will, but don't give anybody an inch. They'll take a mile.

Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater

What's up with the whole cheater cheater pumpkin eater thing anyway? How is that an insult and how does it make any sense? Cheaters should eat something worse than pumpkins! Maybe instead of eating, it should be something like cheater cheater bullshit feeder... that sounds more like an insult.
Anyway when I was younger I never realized how prevalent cheating was. A little over a year ago, I used to work in this different office and I met this guy. I'll call him "Joe". He was a pretty good looking guy and had been married for a while. Well he was always flirting with me, but I always figured it was harmless and he didn't REALLY mean anything by it.
I also worked with this woman and I could always tell there was something there about me that she didn't like. I couldn't think of any reason for her to dislike me. I was always nice to her and we worked together and even had a couple things in common.
Well one day Joe filled me in on why she didn't like me. Apparently he had said something about finding me attractive and it made her feel very jealous. It didn't make much sense to me at the time because she was married and had a small child. I figured it was mostly joke with a little bit of truth to it.
I continued to talk to Joe and sometimes we would have lunch together. Never alone, always in a group of friends, but we became closer and would email each other during the day about silly little things. Sometimes we even played team sports after work.
A couple of times while we were chatting, he would joke and take his wedding band off. And I thought it was exactly that, a joke. I was pretty naive, but at the same time I wasn't doing anything wrong so I never really thought much of any of it.
I realized that this other woman that disliked me so much never really spoke to Joe anymore. And I had heard that they had been pretty good friends before I was ever around. Finally he started crossing the line. He never tried anything physically, but verbally it was too much. It was a different situation for me, because I did enjoy attention from him... but he was a married man. At that point, some people would say "who cares? it's not your problem. you don't know his wife" and others would say "that's very wrong because you know that he's married. stay away".
And then came one day when he told me about his affair with this other woman who barely spoke to him anymore. It made me feel bad for his wife. Joe also told me that his wife even asked him about this other woman and he denied it. He lied right to her face, to his wife, to this woman he was spending the rest of his life with. He made her feel like she was paranoid and silly for asking such a thing. That was the most horrible part. I was shocked and it made me feel sick.
Anyway to make a long story short, nothing ever happened between us, much to his dismay. In retrospect, I'm so happy that I was smart enough about it. And now I've found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and I would never let anything or anyone get in way.

Pet Names

Do you have pet names for your loved ones? I have a lot of nicknames for my friends. I guess you could consider them pet names. I consider them very special. Often I find that I don't like it when people use "my" names for other people. I also don't usually appreciate someone using a pet name that I am called by other people. And in the same respect I try not to use other people's nicknames, but rather enjoy coming up with my own.

My parents and I call my brother by nickname. We're the only ones that use it. I mean even including my aunts, uncles, cousins, and all other family members... my parents and I are the only ones that use it. I used to get annoyed when a friend of mine would use it. To tell you the truth, I think my brother used to get annoyed about it too. I tried to tell her, but it was so difficult. She got offended and somehow .. poof!... she forgot about it and then STILL uses it!!

I have a pet name for my ex-boyfriend. He has a pet name for me. Actually it's the same name. So we still call each other by this name. I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't be okay with this. But I mean that's what we used to call each other for so long so it's hard not to use it now. And even when we do use it, it doesn't mean anything. It's just a name. I don't know if it's wrong, but we are strictly completely platonic. In fact, it's to the point where I can't even look at this ex in any inappropriate manner whatsoever. So does it matter that I still call him by our pet name?

Look alikes

There's this actor that I think is really good. He's not a popular one, but I find him extremely funny. He's great. Not to mention the fact I think he's a pretty good looking guy.
I met the guy once, when I was younger. He was from a neighboring town. But it's not like I really remember, it was just another person I met a long time ago.
So like I said, he's not that popular, but he's starting to come into mainstream movies. I just found out they're making a movie out of a book I really like and he's going to be the main character!
I think my fiance thinks I like this actor more than I really do. I mean he's just a cute actor. So my fiance jokes about it and says he hates him. Of course my fiance is hands down better looking anyway!
Well last week I got a movie that has this actor in it. I watched it on my day off and for some reason there was something familiar about the actor this time. I didn't know what it was. I thought maybe he dressed similarly to my brother, but I didn't think much of it. I didn't send the movie back yet [Netflix is great!] because my fiance said he wanted to see it.
So I came home last night and he was watching the movie. I sat down next to him and as we were watching some scene it suddenly occurred to me what had been so familiar. He looked like an ex-boyfriend of mine. But not just any old boyfriend, it was the one I met when my fiance and I broke up a while back. I wondered if my fiance had the same thought. Later on as the movie played on, my fiance turns to me and says "You know, he looks so much like..." I cringed "Yash". Nope, luckily not who I was thinking of.
Anyway, today I sent my fiance a picture of the actor that looked an awful lot like my ex. I wrote "I think I figured out why you don't like him...who does this remind you of?"
He told me that had nothing to do with it..."I mean I know he's a dork too but"
I wonder if it could be sub-conscious.

To thank or not to thank

Last night at bowling I had to change. I wore a skirt to work so I brought a pair of jeans. As I was leaving the bathroom, some old man standing by the lockers to get his bowling shoes says in his gruff old voice..."you looked better in a dress". I wasn't sure if I was supposed to thank him.
Later on, I was speaking to a teammate of mine. He was sitting down and I was standing facing him. Out of the blue somebody slapped my ass. I assumed it was one of my other teammates, but I still found it pretty odd. I don't really know them that well and I didn't think either of them would do something like that. Well I turned around only to find it was another girl in the league. And she said with authority "wow, you have a really nice firm behind". I wasn't sure if I was supposed to thank her.
Thanks? or no thanks?

Old Friend - New Relationship

I used to know this girl at work. A couple of months after moving to a new state and starting a new job, I met a girl at work who was also new to the area. We would go out on weekends and talked about a lot of things so we became friends.
There came a time when my lease was up and it was awkward because I didn't want to live with her. But how do you tell someone that? I mean we saw each other all day at work and every time we went out, some would say that sounds like we got along so well that we should live together, but to me that sounds like too much. To me, that means I wouldn't get a breather from somebody, no matter how much I liked them. Not to mention that I hadn't known her for very long.
And boy am I glad I stuck with my gut. She turned out to be somewhat jealous, somewhat depressing, somewhat snobby and other times too uptight. Often I found her lecturing me about something. Every guy I spoke to, even if it was just a friend... she felt it wasn't "proper" for me to joke around. But when she spoke with anyone [male], it was okay for her to speak to him in any manner she chose. I didn't understand why everything I did seemed inappropriate and everything she did was acceptable.
She didn't drink alcohol at all, hadn't had a sip in her life. We would go out and I always felt guilty if I had something to drink. She just kind of sucked the fun out of the night.
Then there was a guy that she had a crush on. He was a friend of mine and she hated that he didn't like her in that way. And although my relationship with him was anything but romantic, she hated the fact that I talked with him.
And she had these mood swings, where she'd be really nice and then boom! I'd be "in trouble". She went to an ivy league school and I went to a state university. Of course when she mentioned her spectacular school, I stated that I ended up spending much less money of course... and moreover, we were in the same place, same company, same job. She didn't appreciate this of course.
Well in the end I just stayed away from her and her lectures as much as I could. I ended up switching sites for my company and didn't have to see her on a daily basis anymore so it wasn't too difficult.
I hadn't seen her in a long time until this past weekend. We had lunch together. We've both been busy with our lives, but she's finally dating someone. I was pretty sure that things had changed and just as I had suspected she was much more easygoing. It was so relieving to not have to worry about talking about a relationship, talking about drinking (because her boyfriend drinks), talking about anything really. I think we can be friends again. Maybe not the best of friends, but friends nonetheless. It's amazing how relationships can change people in such a big way and in this case in such a positive way. Why is that so many people are so much more comfortable with their lives when they have a significant other? When did having somebody else become so important, more so than anything else in life?

I've moved!

I feel so much more comfortable now that I've changed my blogger address. I was afraid someone would try my usual "handle" and find me and read what I had to say about everyone. no one can find me now. phew!