Give 'em an inch, they'll take a mile
Why is that when you don't like someone and you try to make that clear so that they stay away, people get so easily offended and they approach you about disliking them or ask you to be a little sensitive towards them and then when you try to be nice a little bit (now that you feel obligated to do so), they immediately think you're friends with them?
I just assume most people take the hint. I would. If someone doesn't like me, then what do I care? I don't need them to like me, unless it's my boss or something. But if someone doesn't like me and especially if there's no reason for them not to like me, then I don't waste my time wondering or caring why. I don't need to ask them to like me either.
Well there's this really annoying guy at work. He annoys me all the time. The thing is half the time I'm rude to him and the other half I ignore him and walk away. Yet he still wants to talk to me. I don't understand why. He doesn't bother other people as much. At first I thought it was because I just got annoyed more easily, but then I realized that he just really enjoys talking to me. He may have some mental problem, but it's almost as though he's out to annoy me. Other co-workers will talk to him and he just won't bother them, visit them as much. He won't ask for their IM screen names or their cell phone numbers. But then other people seem to just be nicer and talk to him more. So I thought maybe that was the key. But when I tried to be nice to him for 30 seconds, he was back at it again, annoying the hell out of me. So I'm mean again, but his feelings will get hurt and sometimes I feel bad. Vicious cycle, it is.
Then there's the boyfriend's friend's girlfriend. So upset when I didn't like her or didn't want to go to lunch with her. In my opinion, there's no reason for her to care whether I did or did not. She told me she feels uncomfortable hanging out in groups with us. I think she should just get over it and not worry about what I think. It's never that simple for anyone, is it? Well, on the advice of my fiance (more like to make him happy), I am nice to her. And what happens?
She's over all the time, talking to me about stuff I dont care about at all, so I have to bullshit with her, be nice through clenched teeth with a fake smile, afraid to make a joke or use my usual sarcasm in the fear that she, this prissy sensitive highly-irritating girl, will get upset.
Ugh. Call me mean, call me what you will, but don't give anybody an inch. They'll take a mile.
I just assume most people take the hint. I would. If someone doesn't like me, then what do I care? I don't need them to like me, unless it's my boss or something. But if someone doesn't like me and especially if there's no reason for them not to like me, then I don't waste my time wondering or caring why. I don't need to ask them to like me either.
Well there's this really annoying guy at work. He annoys me all the time. The thing is half the time I'm rude to him and the other half I ignore him and walk away. Yet he still wants to talk to me. I don't understand why. He doesn't bother other people as much. At first I thought it was because I just got annoyed more easily, but then I realized that he just really enjoys talking to me. He may have some mental problem, but it's almost as though he's out to annoy me. Other co-workers will talk to him and he just won't bother them, visit them as much. He won't ask for their IM screen names or their cell phone numbers. But then other people seem to just be nicer and talk to him more. So I thought maybe that was the key. But when I tried to be nice to him for 30 seconds, he was back at it again, annoying the hell out of me. So I'm mean again, but his feelings will get hurt and sometimes I feel bad. Vicious cycle, it is.
Then there's the boyfriend's friend's girlfriend. So upset when I didn't like her or didn't want to go to lunch with her. In my opinion, there's no reason for her to care whether I did or did not. She told me she feels uncomfortable hanging out in groups with us. I think she should just get over it and not worry about what I think. It's never that simple for anyone, is it? Well, on the advice of my fiance (more like to make him happy), I am nice to her. And what happens?
She's over all the time, talking to me about stuff I dont care about at all, so I have to bullshit with her, be nice through clenched teeth with a fake smile, afraid to make a joke or use my usual sarcasm in the fear that she, this prissy sensitive highly-irritating girl, will get upset.
Ugh. Call me mean, call me what you will, but don't give anybody an inch. They'll take a mile.
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